It has been a long time since we have posted an update and our goal is to update here at least once a week. Hopefully this will become easier now that the “hard” times are behind us.
Most of you know that I have been away for quite some time.. it has been a rough winter season for my family and that is the reason for the post today. Thankfully I will be returning to my wonderful job teaching Stroller Strides & Body Back this week, but boy it has been a rough few weeks.

As a mom of two young boys and a care-provider for another cute little boy …. I am quite busy. I have one child in Elementary School and the other in Preschool. My mornings are super / crazy busy. I teach Body Back on Mondays & Wednesdays, we drop Jakson off at preschool 3 days a week at 9am and Taylor off Monday – Friday at 9:10am and then it is off to teach Stroller Strides with my little buddy, or attend Mom’s Life or MOPS. Throw in my workouts 6 days a week, which I am consistent about and a little PTA time, volunteer time, cooking meals and a little bit of cleaning house (and I mean a little bit) and well you have one ultra busy mom! I am very proud of myself for always taking “me” time and ensuring that I eat healthy & get my work out in. What I am not good about is taking “down time” and well ladies… that is why I found myself in the position I was in this past month or so.

It all started with the stomach flu- which went through the entire house, only to “rear” it’s ugly head again for round number two. Of course, the first day I felt better, I was right back to my ultra- busy schedule and sure enough the Flu hit a week later. Instead of slowing down at that time, I figured that I could tough it out, no way could I get really sick again.. another week of staying super busy and I found myself at the doctors office with a severe case of pneumonia. Dr’s orders… husband stays home for a week and I stay in the bed. NO EXCEPTIONS or I would be hospitalized.. Well, for someone as social as I am and a “go-getter” those are tough words to hear, but when you are so sick that a trip to the bathroom sends you straight to the floor.. you learn to listen.

Thankfully my husband has a career that is supportive of parenthood, so he got to try on “mom’s shoes” for a week and I will admit it was quite amusing listening to him struggle to get the boys out of the house on time (minus an extra toddler that is usually here
. I listened to him try to convince the boys to get dressed, eat breakfast and “get things together or we are going to be late”. He completed the “drop offs” and started his real work with conference calls and emails. … only to be interrupted in 2 hours to do preschool pick-up, lunch, nap… and then try to do some more work. Only to be interrupted once again for elementary school pick up, then it was 3 hours of homework, dinner (which he didn’t have to cook because amazing friends delivered) and then bath/ bedtime and to find himself on the computer for the rest of the evening trying to catch up on “work.” My husband used to complain about the time I spent on the computer in the evening – until this experience. He said to me “I can’t get anything done- every time I start to work, some one needs something or I have to pick up or drop off.” Music to my ears. Needless to say after almost 3 weeks of this, there is a greater appreciation for all that “mom” does.

I share all of this with you because we are all moms. Faced with so much responsibility that when we are “down” it is hard for the household to survive. So many times we spend all of our time taking care of others… and not much time taking care of ourselves. I commend you all for taking time to exercise with Stroller Strides or Body Back… but let me ask you this, do you take time to cook yourself a good meal? Or are you eating the scraps from your toddlers plate? Trust me on this one… with cold & flu season the LAST thing you want to do is that. Since January I have made it a habit to wake up super early and cook, yes cook a nutritious meal for MYSELF. The first few weeks of doing this… made things SO stressful, but now that it is part of my routine… it is easy. No more cold cereal or small bites here and there.. I have a hot nutritious meal 3 times a day, NO exceptions!!
Are you drinking your water? I have a water bottle with me at all times… and I encourage my children to drink enough, so when I encourage them.. I take a drink as well. How about some “mom” time… other than just your exercise. Do you read? Are you watching some good “mindless” TV during nap? Well, why not? Just because Junior is down for a nap- it doesn’t mean that you have to do the million things on your “to do” list. Life will go on if you don’t fold that load of laundry or do those dishes right now. Take a little “me” time. How about a Mom’s Night Out? A little adult time with other moms can be so rejuvenating. When is the last time you took a bath? Why don’t you let Dad do the bedtime ritual and you go take a long, hot bath alone? Again… those chores can wait… but your emotional well- being can NOT.
There are a lot of misconceptions about “working out” and getting sick. I believe that by incorporating fitness in to my life it helps me to stay healthy! A good “rule of thumb” with the common cold is if it is above the neck – work out … if it is in your chest take some time off. If you just feel tired and worn down… take some time “off.” I believe that the reason I got SO sick is because I am unable to say “no” at times. I can’t miss church, or MOPS, I can’t take a day off from Stroller Strides, I can’t miss that “run”, but you know what?? I can. This world will survive if I don’t make it to all of these events… it is ok to just take some time.
I was tempted to return to work last week as my fever was gone and I was no longer coughing. I was extremely tired and still very weak.. but I was super close to returning to work. Until some great friends … wouldn’t take “no” for an answer and encouraged me to just rest another week. Stroller Strides would survive without me… we do have 7 other amazing instructors and the world wouldn’t end if I was “off” for another week. I also accepted the assistance from my mommy friends. Two weeks of meals delivered to my house, has enabled me to rest and not worry about taking care of the family. Don’t be afraid to ask for help when you need it. Trust me.. if you ask one of your mommy friends to take “junior” for the morning so you can rest, I can assure you that she will gladly accept your assistance when she is in need. It is hard to ask for help… but sometimes we just need to do it. 
Look out for one another! If you see one of your mommy friends “struggling” – ask her what you can do. I have always been the one helping others… and this time it was MY turn to let the mommy-village help ME and boy did it make things easier.
Bottom line ladies… is that we have families that depend on us to survive. Moms are the very “heart & soul” of the family and if mommy isn’t taking care of herself.. then it is really hard to take care of others. There is a “ME” in mommy and I have discovered that in a way this week that will change forever how I operate. I will never again take for granted my health… I don’t want my busy schedule to stop. I LOVE my boys, Stroller Strides, my little Stroller Strides buddy, and all of the awesome groups that I participate in…..but I AM going to ask for help when I need it, hire that once a month housekeeper that I have been wanting for so long, take that bath and do my yoga, and I am going to read my books. Life is too short…. we don’t have to always be “on” we need to have some down time in order to take care of ourselves.
I look forward to seeing you all in class soon and I hope that this post will encourage you to take some “ME” time.
In Health & Happiness!
Athena
Mother of two boys
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